059: Teaching English Abroad while in College | Nikki Awad

059: Teaching English Abroad while in College | Nikki Awad

On this day in Marrakech, I stopped by a co-operative and caught up with Nikki, who is a student doing a short stint abroad to teach English in Morocco. Nikki gives some practical advice on how easy it can be to travel the world and make an impact. My favorite quote:

“All you gotta do is pursue what you wanna do, it’s that simple.”

Take a listen if you’ve ever wanted to add a new experience in your life. Enjoy!!

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058: How to constantly MOVE FORWARD & keep things EXCITING

058: How to constantly MOVE FORWARD & keep things EXCITING

I find that when I come home after a long trip, I have mixed feelings. Coming home almost feels like coming back to a past life..

[In short, I find this is because when you allow for new experiences in your life you almost inevitably see the way you live in a new, fresh way.]

I’ve been thinking on this for the last few days as I’ve returned after business events in London, a solo birthday trip to Morocco & Portugal, an exciting art project in California, and a fun Memorial Day in NY with my bf.

All of these things are moving me in the direction that I want it to go, but at the same time, there’s that weird moment when you come down from the travel high…to…what was. Which might be perfectly fine, but also I think we tend to overlook that we usually create a life based on what our family and friends have always done. Nothing bad in that, but there’s so much diversity out there to take into account as well. Like, I love bringing back some little thing from my trips to begin implementing in my life. One of my new ones is a new type of bathing from Morocco!

The things I want you to remember is that we can always create the reality we want or change it into something we desire. Which, for me, means remembering the feelings, ideas, and visions of my future life I had during my time away.

During trips away from our busy day-to-day happenings, it’s so much easier to think that anything is possible. I’m sure you’ve experienced that: being on vacation and thinking “I bet we could live here” only to come back home and never give it one more thought. A lot of people attribute that to “coming back to reality” but remember what I said, we create the reality we want. You truly can. If you want to do something, you can. You break it up into smaller steps and do the first step within the next 5 minutes. It could be as small as creating a to-do list, or one of my favorite action steps: contacting one person who could be some type of connection to get you a step further.

After coming back from trips to my old habits too many times, I’m finding that it’s actually important to remember those new thoughts I had and begin to put them into play. Most often it’s not major things but instead, it’s simple things, like lighting a candle that smells like the beach or having deeper conversations with everyone or sitting in gratitude each day for 5 minutes. Things that make you feel genuinely happy at the end of the day.

The biggest idea from my past few weeks I’m putting into play is thinking on a bigger scale. There’s a lot of awesome people and so much opportunity out there and it’s really fun to be in the midst of it all. I’m also playing music while I work and getting more outdoors time. What are you doing to feel more alive?

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057: How to have GREAT Stories | 30th Birthday

057: How to have GREAT Stories | 30th Birthday

I spent my 30th birthday in London. 6 months prior I had decided that I was going to be successful by 30, which at that point only meant that I wanted my bank account overflowing with extra funds by then.  Not exactly the best foundation for success, by the way.

However, It seemed serendipitous that the graduation of the event was on the turn of decades for me, and I thought everything would pull together because it was so perfect.

I’ve never had a huge desire to go to London, it’s mainly due to the lackluster weather and cuisine they’re known for. For that reason, I should’ve realized my plan was flawed already, but we are good at talking ourselves into things that seem perfect, aren’t we? It’s like seeing the best shirt ever in a store, only to try it on and realize it really doesn’t suit you, yet it’s so hard to walk away from that perfect (but actually not perfect at all) shirt.

London as a city ended up being nicer than I thought, besides the exchange rate obviously. If I was a Brit, I would travel 90% of my time and get everything for 90% off.

I stayed with 2 different new-ish friends in London. If there’s any advice I’d give to people starting as early as possible, it’s to befriend people who have that travel itch, or who are from different countries. There’s nothing better than having a familiar face and a comfy homey bed in a foreign place.

Back to my birthday, I spent it at the Ritz, at the business event with 15 chicks. Old world glam, besides being impressive in itself, doesn’t interest me too much. Having all the tiny details attended to is fun, but I really just want to tell everyone to go up a bit on the relaxing and true smiles. Getting everything you want should be a happy experience filled with lots of laughs.

I did, however, get a delicious birthday cake brought out by the staff, which was crazy yum. So their cake bakers get an A+.

What the business event that day taught me about most of all is that everything is connections. Life is about relationships. What really matters is the people you interact with. I don’t get very emotional but the people who did, I noticed that all of their emotions traced back to people. It was never: “that $1000 didn’t make me happy” or “my Facebook ads have ruined my life;” it was “I was abandoned when I was younger and it’s affecting me. It was “my mom said something to me and it’s shaped my life negatively” or “my husband doesn’t quite agree with me and I need to please him first” or “I don’t want to outshine my sister” or “I don’t want others to not trust me because someone broke my trust and I don’t want people to feel the way I did.”

If we can realize that it’s actually our “people pleasing” that is holding us back in almost every scenario (test it for yourself), we could go crazy crazy further than we ever knew was possible. 

It’s actually insane.

Please give some time to think about who you’re unnecessarily trying to please in your life. This can include your kids too. I recently reminded my mom that it’s more exciting for us kids to see her passionately pursuing her dreams rather than trying to please us by being there at every beckoning.

What’s this require? Boundaries. Knowing you deserve more. Making it non-negotiable. Quitting using old stories as a crutch. Moving past the fear. Giving way more time to yourself. Taking action immediately. And most importantly recognizing all of your excuses and stopping all complaining.

You’ll find it really empowering to hear all the “buts” you’re using and having to turn them into immediate possibilities.

My latest “but” sentence was simply in my head. Those are some of the worst, by the way, because they are the stories you tell yourself on repeat without realizing. Things like “I want to start posting on social media regularly but It’s a busy time right now and I don’t want to be inconsistent.” With one sentence, you’ve successfully rationalized an excuse to yourself. A really bad habit if you haven’t realized already.

Say more yesses, you’ll thank yourself & your biz will thank you too.

Upon completion of the day, we all decided to go have a drinky in the posh lobby. I figured it would probably be the most expensive drink of my life, and my 30s must have made me smarter quickly because I was right. $35 for one drink. It better have been made of gold right? Well, my lucky day, it was sprinkled with flakes of gold. Now that’s the way to start a decade off golden.

The Kiwi friend I was staying with unfortunately left on my birthday to go to Spain to hang with a man she’d met 2 weeks prior on a visit there. He better have been hot. My bf was on vacation when he met me too, so I’m actually all about this.

My friend’s roommate lovingly filled in and wanted to accompany me for some birthday dinner and drinks which was quite sweet. I had a cheeseboard in my mind and of course looked for a highly rated cute place we could get one.

What I found was beyond perfect. Now, I have a talent for finding cute places that are out of the way and gems so it’s good I still kept that talent in my new decade. La Beaujolais was the name. We would’ve simply enjoyed our bottle of Bordeaux and our old school plates of 8 cheeses and an array of cold cuts this American didn’t recognize, but it got better. Apparently, two young girls in this super old establishment isn’t the norm, and an old La Beaujolais regular, Robert, came over to chat with us. He eventually brought his friend, the chef and owner of one of the most famous French restaurants in London, over to join in the lively conversation. 

You may have thought this post was a general post of my day, but it is actually only about the following 2 hours.

Robert was probably 70, a man who smiled when he talked, had a story for everything, and sprinkled in quotes and the authors of the quotes for every topic we touched on.

A common question I ask people when I hear the line of work they’re in is: do you enjoy it? I’ve come to recognize immediate how people feel about their work and when they are looking for more meaning. People want to be asked deep questions and I encourage you to get deeper with people as you’ll be pleasantly surprised how much more meaning the convo will have. More recently I’ve found that people actually respond to this question with a lot of enthusiasm which not only makes me excited but also shows me that I’m surrounding myself with a good bunch of people.

When I asked Robert if he liked being a Baroner (trial lawyer) and wearing a wig to work each day, he responded with the most sincere, “I don’t just like it, I adore it.” And continued with the quote about turning your passion into your work so that you never work a day in your life.

What line of work would make you have the same response?

We spent a long while chatting about Roughing It.

Roughing it: the art of getting by in life in less than ideal curcumstances by utilizing creative ideas.

He said the best stories come from either Roughing it or doing the opposite aka my day at the Ritz. How true is that?

Think about the best stories you tell people. Let me tell you one story I don’t tell: I took a workout class this morning. What do I tell? I got lost, started crying twice, and somehow summited a huge mountain that a few years ago I thought was only for extreme mountaineers. What else won’t you hear me telling: I went on the same beach vacation for the last 3 years and stayed at the Holiday Inn. What will I tell? My boyfriend and I flew to Amsterdam first class but yet didn’t book a hotel until we landed and ended up with the most adorable apartment right on the canal. Or maybe I’d talk about that time I was sleeping outside in a hut on stilts in Panama in the middle of nowhere rainforest when I saw a spider the size of my hand 5 feet away.

Which stories to you want to listen to?

I say do something bold whether it’s one way or the other, because there’s a lot more to life than taking the middle of the road, the safe, normal route.

Too many people think the normal way is the smart way or the safe way will get them the furthest. Actually, this couldn’t be further from the truth.

Or maybe you like that comfortable life. What you don’t know, is that you could be getting a lot more if you’d let go of what you think is your perfect life. Do something crazy, rough it, or treat yourself extravagantly. Make a story out of the experience.

On another note, oddly enough, if you google the French chef’s restaurant, Bellamy’s,’ an article titled “Why Bellamy’s is the Queen’s most visited Restaurant” pops up. I reminded him, as he talked about serving the queen and other prestigious persons with no emotion, to be proud of himself. We get in these places where we forget to be grateful for all we have and give ourselves the grace to be proud of all we’ve done. I know this from personal experience, where I dumb down big things I do, because, by the time I’ve achieved it, I’ve forgotten how much hard work it took to get to that point, and often don’t give myself enough credit. The more we acknowledge the amazing things we do, the more we will give space to enjoy the adventure of going for more because we won’t be so focused on striving for perfection in ourselves or others.

After another shared bottle of Merlot, chosen by Stephane, he decided we must go dance at Little Italy, and I spend the rest of the entire night (until 5am) having bubbles in Little Italy.

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056: Is the Fastest Way to Success actually PATIENCE?

056: Is the Fastest Way to Success actually PATIENCE?

Yes, as weird as this title sounds, this is actually something I’ve been pondering a lot lately.

As the internet speeds things up, I’ve realized that a lot of people feel like their success needs to happen ASAP! Today, or at the very latest, tomorrow.

I’ll be honest, I was part of this group of people for a long time, and I’m still working on transitioning my mindset around it. Maybe you’re similar and think that nothing happens fast enough, too?

For instance, are you constantly feeling like you’re behind because you see a lot of people having your dream life already on Instagram? Even though a lot of that is fake, ya still want it right, ha, I hear ya. Or are you always reading those ads and articles that pop up that tell you a list of things that are holding you back and how you can get past them to live your dream life?

Back in November, I joined a high-end course with a coach teaching business and coaching strategies. Looking back, I didn’t really know what I was getting into, but I did know that I wanted everything I was doing to take off way faster than it was. I thought I deserved to have things come together perfectly for me. And when I read about this course, it seemed like it was my recipe for 6 months to success.

Spoiler alert, it didn’t. Yes, I now know more than I did, but I think more-so I actually learned the opposite of what I went into it for. I learned that a lot of people on the internet right now are starting things there because the entry is so easy. I noticed that people who think they want to be entrepreneurs don’t exactly know how difficult it is or maybe more so, the stamina it takes, to start, run, maintain, grow, and be profitable. I saw that people think they deserve the world after they’ve only worked for a few months.

Yes, I now know more than I did, but I think more-so I actually learned the opposite of what I went into it for. I learned that a lot of people on the internet right now are starting things there because the entry is so easy. I noticed that people who think they want to be entrepreneurs don’t exactly know how difficult it is or maybe more so, the stamina it takes, to start, run, maintain, grow, and be profitable. I saw that people think they deserve the world after they’ve only worked for a few months.

And you know what, I get it. Because some people we see are overnight successes, but 99% of those overnight successes were working behind the scenes for years and years and years.

One of the most common themes to the impatience I’ve noticed seems to be complaining. People who feel entitled that just because they built a website and put out an offer, they deserve to have buyers, and a lot of them. I often wonder where this stems from and how someone comes to the conclusion that they deserve to be successful just for putting something out there whether it’s good or bad, whether they’re an expert or not, etc.. I can tell you one thing, if it was that easy, everyone would do it.

But that’s the catch. It is that easy to put something out now AND everyone is doing it. EXCEPT, that’s where the knowledge ends. As hard as you may have thought the starting was, the start is the easy part! The everyday grind is where the real winners start to appear. And that hustle is what’s hard because results don’t come like magic or at the speed of Superman. Results come from taking crazy action every single day while also being really patient.

And listen, some impatience is fine with me because I get it. I want to grow my lists quickly (ps. go join my Instagram @haleybhop:), I want to be on top Podcasts lists, I want my art to be sold out, but no matter how many coaches or magic fairies I get, I’m the one who has to make things happen, step by step by setback by step. And I truly think that the victory is finding enjoyment in that process.

Because if you’re really passionate about something, you should be okay with and excited about working and grinding and hustling your heart out around what you want to do and achieve.

So today, don’t let others’ seemingly quick victories get to you. You’re running your own race. Be okay with the fact that it is going to require a lot of creativity and hours and strength and so on, because if you want it that much, it’ll all be worth it, and then, give your best every single day.

 

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055: How a 25 year old made her VISION come to LIFE and built a school in Africa | Kelsey Bradley

055: How a 25 year old made her VISION come to LIFE and built a school in Africa | Kelsey Bradley

If you have ever had the longing or heart to help out people around the world who could use a hand, this is the episode for you! Earlier this year, Kelsey oversaw her school design being built in Cameroon, Africa.

In our conversation, she teaches us how to go ALL-IN after a dream, brings us total grassroots fundraising strategies, and talks how taking action on things you believe in is what’s important. I hope this episode helps you realize that when it comes to making your goals happen and going after things that seem crazy, there is no perfect time. Go for it!

Find Kelsey on her website HERE and check out her charity HERE.

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054: Having more FUN through less complaints | Greg Durso

054: Having more FUN through less complaints | Greg Durso

Today I have Greg Durso with me on the Podcast. I wanted to bring him on to do a short interview about 3 areas I think he is totally better at than me. They are:

  • Positivity Always
  • Eliminating Complaining
  • Being more Open-minded

Listen in as Greg talks about how he implements each of these into his everyday life and how you can do a better job of it too!

*If you want to hear more from Greg, he is on my first interview, episode #2 on the podcast!

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053: Creating CONFIDENCE to not care what people think

053: Creating CONFIDENCE to not care what people think

Do any of you work jobs that have a lot of rules? I haven’t been involved in the corporate life too much, and a lot of my work has been very loosely regulated. However, last night I was at work and there was an auditor there.

Prior to the shift, our supervisor gave a little pep talk, telling us tips on how to succeed and what we need to watch out for particularly for what she’s going to be looking at. I don’t know much about auditors, I feel like they’re sorta like watch birds who make sure that you follow the rules and don’t have quite as much fun and freedom as you’d like.

The shift began and the funniest thing started to happen. Everyone was messing up. Super obvious mistakes, basically nothing could go right.

Now, this auditor is just a little old lady with a raincoat on standing outside in the rain watching us work, taking some photos with her little digi cam. Harmless. And yet we can’t do a darn thing on point. Everything was taking twice the amount of time it usually takes and the simple teamwork that usually happens completely fell apart.

It wasn’t until we finished up and I was walking back inside that I just started laughing to myself realizing what just happened. It was so funny to me that things that we usually do so simply became huge stumbling blocks when we overthought about them.

Immediately I started to relating this to the entrepreneurial world and thought about how often we try to please people and do the right thing when really that ends up backfiring.

Answer these questions:

Are you a people pleaser? Do you do certain things so that your parents are proud of you or so that you look good to your friends? Do you find yourself often wondering what people are thinking about what you’re doing before you start? If you answered yes to any of these, which I’m guessing you did because most people will, it could be your downfall.

I know that sounds drastic, but I’m serious!

Listen, going back to the night I just described, like I said, on regular evenings everyone’s able to function like a well-oiled machine; nobody thinks twice about what they’re doing, everyone’s really confident in their abilities and what they’re doing, and things pretty much go off without a hitch. However, when one person comes in whose opinion we care about, everyone’s confidence drops almost 100% they suddenly and unreasonably become unsure of themselves and their own skills and begin to make mistakes.

How crazy is this! Now I’m not saying that an auditor’s opinion doesn’t matter in this occasion, instead, what I’m saying is that, if we had kept our confidence and done what we knew we could, everything would have gone off perfectly like usual.

Let’s put this in perspective for a second and realize that there are two ways we can go about everything.

Since I’m an artist I’ll compare this to the art world, but please put yourself in whatever world is yours.

So say you’re an aspiring artist but you went to school for something else. You’re ready to put out some art into the world, but when you tell your parents they ask you how your job search is coming. You get that hindered feeling in the back of your mind wondering if you should be focusing on something else besides art right now. And then you think back to college; a few of your professors didn’t think you were very creative and weren’t afraid to let you know that. If they didn’t even think you were that great, that probably speaks for the rest of the world, right? And then you realize that if you post your art, your friends will all see it and might take easy jabs at you. All of your excitement for the art piece you were about to show begins to go down the drain. Your confidence drops and you begin rethinking everything. What a downer. 

Now, imagine you’ve just created something and are ready to put it out to the world, but this time think about if you didn’t care what one person thought about your art. You think about the times in the past when people have praised you for your work, you remember all the sales you’ve made, and you know that no matter if some of your friends of people who see it on social media don’t like it, there will be that niche that will absolutely love it. You think about that day when your parents will ask you for an art piece, and you’ll say sorry I’m too busy (haha totally kidding), and you realize that you don’t necessarily want to be like those professors that didn’t appreciate your creativity.

Now you really want to put your stuff out into the world right? It’s because of your confidence! It’s a million times easier to express yourself when you aren’t wasting the entire time worrying what everyone is thinking about you do. And people naturally gravitate towards confident people. They just do.

I hope you can clearly see how much of a potential negative impact letting what others think can have on our success. Can you believe that we can literally let other people’s thoughts, which in reality might not even be their actual thoughts, determine what we do with our lives?

I truly don’t think we’re scared of failing as much as were scared of what people are going to think about us if we don’t succeed at what we say were going to do.

And how sad is that that we would let someone else decide our future?

Today I want to push you so hard to know that you can have the confidence in yourself all by yourself and you don’t need the validation of others to do what you want to do. I want you to care about others but I don’t want you to care about what they think about what you’re doing. It’s time to stop thinking about if people will like what you’re doing and it’s time to go give the world the best you got, mmk?

 

Thanks so much for listening, it means the world to me!! I would love if you’d leave a review on iTunes and tell me what you’re up to in life! 

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052: Achieve more by INCREASING your EXPECTATIONS

052: Achieve more by INCREASING your EXPECTATIONS

Hi everyone, it’s your host, Haley. If we haven’t met before, I’m so happy you jumped on this episode since I have something really fun to share. Dun, dun, dunnnnn: this past week I officially reached my goal of making it to every state!

Last year, I realized I was really close and had under 10 states left to hit, so I thought knocking them off before i turned 30 (which is next month) would be a really cool goal. Through the months, I slowly but surely got to each and then hit a bit of a road block as I failed on my both of my attempts to get to Rhode Island and Alaska. So this past week, I put on my travel boots and hit both the smallest and largest in one week!

I’m planning to write a more exciting post about all the states and my favorite spots so that you guys can get some insight into new places you may want to hit, and I’ll release that around my birthday, so stay tuned!

Today, revolving around this accomplishment, I wanted to talk with you about setting expectations for yourself.

This sort of relates to goals, and you can hear more about those on Episode 31, but I think expectations go a bit deeper. It’s a way of everyday thinking, not just a distant accomplishment you hope to achieve. And it begins with a choice.

When I decided I wanted to reach all 50 states, I expected myself to make it happen. It wasn’t simply an idea that may or may not occur. I fully expected myself to accomplish what I wanted and therefore welcomed any opportunities that came my way to see the remaining states. My expectations guided my actions.

How high are the expectations you have for yourself? And more importantly, are these expectations for YOURSELF or for someone else.

I find often we place high expectations on ourselves to please our parents, or significant others, or heck, even social media. But if we’re being honest, those usually aren’t fun and they won’t last. Sooner or later you’ll get sick of trying to please people and realize that people really don’t care as much as you thought and you should’ve been spending your time following your personal expectations.

Alright, so we’re clear, these are YOUR expectations. So what’s the point and what’s the process?

Simply, the point is that higher expectations allow you to get the results that you want. If you go into a meeting expecting mediocre outcomes, that’s usually what you’ll get, right? However, if you go in expecting that by the end you will have the results and information you desire, you’ll be more apt to ask the right questions, engage with the right people, and delegate tasks to people who will create the best outcomes. Maybe you can’t control everything entirely, but you got results you wanted and expected.

The same can be said for sports games. Say you expect to have 20 points by the end of your basketball game. Can you get those 20 points if you only shoot 3 shots? Obviously not. Same with clients. If I expect to sell 5 paintings this month, but only put 3 for sale, I don’t even give myself a chance. By placing higher expectations on yourself, you give yourself a higher chance of success.

Kinda sounds simple, doesn’t it? It is!

I want all of you to come out of this episode with high expectations for yourself so let’s dive a bit deeper into the process of having them.

What are a few things you could get into order that would make you instantly feel like you are ready to achieve more? For my extra traveling, I knew I needed to maintain a better calendar and set a schedule to accomplish things while I was at home. Maybe for you, it’s as simple (or not simple depending) as cleaning your desk and space! A clean space can make a world of difference, believe me! For you, it may mean eating healthier meals so you have more energy to raise expectations. It could mean changing up your spending habits.

It’s important to realize that when you choose to raise your expectations, you may have to get rid of some of the low hanging fruit that’s holding you back. I’m talking about that easy stuff that isn’t really doing much for ya. For me, that’s too much social media time when I should be being creative on my own, and eating one too many pastries when I’m trying to maintain a tougher workout schedule, and talking myself out of networking events. What are some things you can think of that may be holding you back? Maybe it’s even some thoughts or things people said about you many years ago that you’re letting hold you back from thinking you’re worth more.

If you aren’t exactly where you want to be in life right now, I would challenge you to think harder about those areas of your life and realize that if you implement high expectations today and change up a couple habits, you can get where you want to be much faster. We’re all into that, right?!

By giving up the stuff that’s involved in lower expectations, and reaching for bigger things, you will find that you inevitably attract more opportunities and confident people in your life, opening up a whole new world to you.

But please remember this: high expectations for yourself should not be confused with having high expectations of others. I’ve always been the type of person to not expect things from others so this idea comes very naturally to me. Not in a ‘woe is me,’ ‘I’m never counting on anyone again” type of way, but with the mindset that people don’t owe me anything. If you spend your life getting upset that people haven’t given you what you think you deserve, you’re going to waste a lot of time and energy.

I can tell you that personally, by not expecting people to do things for me, it does 2 things:

  1. It’s more exciting when people DO do things for me (plus I’m not at all let down otherwise.)
  2. I work harder to show people that I am worthy of being recognized.

Cool! I can’t wait for you to continue to expect more from yourself as you’ve already got so much to offer inside of you! Let me know some new expectations you have for yourself in the comments below!

Thanks so much for listening, it means the world to me!! I would love if you’d leave a review on iTunes and tell me what you’re up to in life! 

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051: How pushing ourselves PHYSICALLY can benefit us MENTALLY

051: How pushing ourselves PHYSICALLY can benefit us MENTALLY

As you guys may have noticed, on the Passion Design Project, I love bringing you big ideas and bold strategies for creating the life you want.

Today’s topic might not be your absolute favorite, but listen, achieving big results isn’t always gonna be a walk in the park, SO, if you aren’t waking up absolutely amped about the day ahead, stick with me because this is important stuff!

We’re talking fitness. Moving that bod. Gettin off your booty and maybe just maybe working up a sweat!

Maybe this is your thing, or maybe you’re totally cringing like I occasionally do when it comes to workouts. I love playing sports, but when it comes to working out just for the heck of it, gosh, it just doesn’t appeal to me! How does it appeal to anybody? You guys, why is it fun to sweat and hurt?!

Okay okay, all the benefits, I get it. And soooo, that’s what we’re going to talk about today! But not in just the generic “exercise to get in shape” context. I want to dig in a little further.

Because that’s what I needed to get me to workout. I know that it can give me abs, I know that I can knock off a few pounds, I know that it can create a good instagram selfie. But I needed something more. Maybe you do too?

That’s why I’m digging into the good stuff – I’m not training for a marathon and not thinking about losing weight, so besides the good endorphins, love those, why should I exercise?

Well, well, well, glad you asked!

Recently I was questioning the end results of my productivity. I was noticing that I’d take a lot of action and start a lot of new things, but once I got to the hard part or the edge of the cliff it felt like, I would sit down instead of taking the massive leap of action that could actually produce the results I want.

Now, the view from the edge of the cliff is really good, I can see possibilities for miles. However, if you’ve ever stood on the edge of something before jumping, you know that if you stand for more than 5 seconds, you start to think of a million reasons why you can’t jump or shouldn’t jump. You slowly back away and decide it’s easier to go work on something else and you’ll come back and jump later.

I call this the “feel good” strategy. You get far enough that you feel good about what you accomplished, but don’t go so far that it would hurt. Cuz that’s uncomfortable!

As I was sitting around wondering why some things I was doing weren’t taking off, I thought about this. This thought just so happened to be right before I was going to either go for a run or do a workout circuit.

Like I mentioned previously, I don’t exactly look forward to workouts. I actually occasionally, probably more often than I should, think of an excuse in my head why I need to condense it or cut it short that day. I’m talking embarrassing excuses like, my joints were cracking and I want to let them rest, or you know the one: you don’t want to go so hard that you have to wash your hair.

Okay so during this moment, a little lightbulb of correlation went off in my head. I stop on my workouts when the going gets too tough, and I stop taking action in my biz when things get tough or uncomfortable. Maybe this connection is really obvious to you, but it took until that moment for me to really get it. I didn’t have the toned body I wanted and I didn’t have the killer biz I wanted, but I felt so close in both.

What I realized I needed to improve on was my simple mentality behind doing both of these things. It wasn’t that I didn’t have the skills or knowledge, I was just mentally weak.

An article I read on this subject on elitefts.com mentioned that “The problem is there isn’t any easy way or shortcut to teaching toughness. Mental toughness is not for sale. The only way to get mentally tougher is by earning it.”

I like that because as often as we talk about thinking the right thoughts and saying affirmations and such, repeating that you’re going to run up a hill 5 times and then actually having the mental strength to do it are two different things. Just like saying you will get 5 new clients is different than actually taking the action to contact and find 5 new clients.

In the article, he goes on to mention that developing that mental strength means you must often do what’s uncomfortable for you and that you are your own worst enemy; both of these, usually hand-in-hand, are what I see holding people back the most. They let this fear of putting themselves and their talents out there, and look for any ways to stay more comfortable if there’s a chance of failure.

I’m captivated by methods that help build confidence, and on this note, he goes on to talk about fear.

“Fear is a needed quality to develop mental strength. By facing fear, you learn courage. Being fearless is a misconceived trait. As admirable as being fearless can be, it isn’t realistic nor does it provide any benefit to being a mentally tough beast…Confronting fear with brave actions is how you get tough. Fear is an emotional response. At times, fear is irrational and blown out of perspective. It is not easy getting over any shattering experiences, but with guts and determination, you can get over any painful ordeal. Life is full of disappointments and letdowns. When we don’t get what we want, the consolation is that we gain experience. This doesn’t seem like a worthwhile prize, but see how the adversity can enlighten you. If may not be obvious, but look hard at any opportunity for personal growth. Take in the life lesson and move on.”

Now, I won’t say that facing my fears and developing my mental strength is my favorite thing ever, or easy by any means, but I will say that it is extremely rewarding and helps me achieve more at a crazy rapid rate.

So if you are like me, and need an extra push to go for that harder workout, I hope this gives you enough motivation to try something more intense and bust through any limiting beliefs you have about yourself. Like most things, it’s a simple matter of changing your thought habits, like Aristotle says:

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit.”

 

Thanks so much for listening, it means the world to me!! I would love if you’d leave a review on iTunes and tell me what you’re up to in life! 

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Article mentioned: https://www.elitefts.com/education/training/the-psychology-of-strength-incorporating-mental-toughness-training/

050: Stop WAITING for the perfect time, starting today

050: Stop WAITING for the perfect time, starting today

Imagine you are in your absolute dream job, living your dreamiest life, making the impact you long to make?

How amazing does that feel?

SO GOOD right?

So…why aren’t you doing exactly that? No seriously, why?

If you’re like most of the population, you’ve probably come up with a few really solid excuses by now.

It’s just not practical. It’s too late for that dream. There’s already too many people doing it. I don’t have the expertise I need. I have too many responsibilities. My family needs all my time and energy. The transition would be too hard. I don’t have enough money saved to make a change. I don’t know, maybe I’ll try it in a few years. My life is fine as it is.

Wow, that was so easy to come up with excuses. Like, insanely easy. Was it that easy for you?

Now I want you to title all of your excuses: Excuses I’m allowing to hold me back. I doubt you really want to do that, and you probably don’t want to hear me tell you they are excuses anyhow. Because most likely, they are legit reasons in your mind. Regardless, I’m going to continue to call them excuses and do you know why?

Because people in your same spot have gone on to live the dream life you’re wanting.

Making excuses each day is really easy, as I just proved. And the best part is, people will let you. They will agree and say it isn’t the right place and time. They’ll make you feel good about your decision to stay comfortable where you are. And you know what? That’s perfectly fine, but that’s not getting you any closer to your dream life, dream job, biggest impact.

And if I had wanted you to stay comfortable and play smaller than you are meant to, I wouldn’t have created this podcast. And today is the day we start playing bigger.

I don’t mean that you need to quit your job and go move across the country. Dream lives aren’t built in a day, but they are created with small steps taken one day at a time.

If that means you need to spend 10 minutes a day reading a business book, order one on Amazon prime today, or go to the library, I did that earlier!

If that means, you need to stop chatting with certain people who are downers in your life, start there (I realize this is a hard one, but suuuuper important).

If that means you need to improve your relationship, definitely start there.

If that means volunteering with an organization you feel really passionate about, carve out an hour a week and start there.

By starting somewhere really small, with a tiny shift in the direction you want to go, you will feel leaps and bounds more fulfilled.

And for all you who are already on the path towards your dream life, keep going. Inevitably there will be days, weeks, and months that feel like you haven’t even gone an inch forward, but rest assured, when you look back a year from now, you will be able to see your progress so much clearer.

I love this quote from Mike Dooley in Leveraging the Universe:

“…even as my ship was coming in, I couldn’t see it! I never realized how CLOSE I was to seeing some of my grandest dreams realized, and they never would have had I not persisted….It is impossible to actually know how close you are on a journey inspired by a dream. Even now, for instance, you may have already reached your dream’s tipping point where SUCCESS IS INEVITABLE – though this will only ever be known with hindsight, at some point after the fact.”

So remember, you aren’t that far from your dreams BUT you have to be willing to take those small steps to get there and every day. I truly believe success is inevitable if you stay persistent!

Thanks so much for listening, it means the world to me!! I would love if you’d leave a review on iTunes and tell me what you’re up to in life! 

As always, you can find more episodes like this on my website at www.PassionDesignProject.com or subscribe on iTunes to get them delivered to your app.

If you know of a perfect guest for the podcast you can reach me at Haley@PassionDesignProject.com or by finding me on Facebook at Passion Design Project.

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